What Happened to the Woman I Married?

Have you ever been close to someone who you thought you really knew but who, in one particular situation, proves to be a completely different person?

That’s my current situation and it’s…weird. It’s weird. I should be angrier than I am, but I’m more just confused about what’s happening.

The basic story is I’m getting a divorce. It was a long time coming, and when the decision came, it wasn’t at all unexpected. The discussion was civil. I’m not going to claim there weren’t tears and some angry words, but overall, we talked like we always talk. It was agreed between the both of us that there were just too many issues that we didn’t see eye to eye on and that the spark that held us together had just fizzled out. We even agreed to be friends. It was about as good as you could hope.

I mean, it really was inevitable. I want kids and she doesn’t. I always thought that would change, that some sort of maternal instinct would kick in, but she still doesn’t want them, and I think she honestly never will. She wants to travel, and I want to settle. We’re just in completely different places with completely different priorities. I can see now that we had a perfect relationship for our twenties, but now our thirties are here, it just wasn’t ever going to work out.

But I really did honestly think we’d be able to stay friends in all this. I thought that, in fact, until the other day, when we got down to the specifics of the divorce. Turns out, we don’t agree on anything there either, and unlike the actual break up of the marriage, there wasn’t a lot of friendly feeling to go around.

I think we fought over every piece of furniture, over the cars (she wants both for some reason), even over my dog (who she never liked and who I brought into the relationship). I wanted to talk to her privately about all this, but I was told it wasn’t for the best. So, I can’t know for sure, but I’m beginning to suspect she didn’t actually take the break up quite as smoothly as she let on.

Could I have misread her feelings? I don’t know. I thought she wanted this as well or I wouldn’t have brought it up. I’m the kind of guy to go on suffering silently if I think it’ll make someone else happy. We’d still be together if I thought she’d be happier that way.

Maybe it’s just a temporary hiccup. Maybe she needs to get it out of her system.

But, since I don’t know that for sure, I have to start investigating contested divorces and find out exactly how those work. I hope we can walk back from this point. I hope I can still save our friendship, but at this point, it seems like she just wants to burn everything down. I’m grateful right now that we didn’t have kids together.

Common Injuries from Oil Field Accidents

All kinds of workers are vulnerable to workplace accidents and injuries. Even office workers, who seem to be in safe office buildings, may be hurt because of defective escalators and elevators, fires from overheating office equipment, and electric shocks from overloaded wiring systems.

But it can be said that some workers are more vulnerable than others, such as oil field workers. According to the website of Brunkenhoefer P.C., oil field injuries can be sustained from various oil field accidents, like explosions, exposure to toxic chemicals, falls from oil derricks, gas leaks, malfunctioning machinery or equipment, and pipeline blowouts. But what exactly are the injuries that can be sustained?


Oil field workers use tools and heavy machines that can potentially cut off body parts due to malfunction or improper use. In improper use, the workers may be at fault, but in a malfunction, employers, supervisors, inspectors, and maintenance providers may be held liable. The worst thing about amputations is that they are generally permanent injuries.

Brain and Spinal Cord Injuries

The brain and the spinal cord can receive serious traumatic force during falling accidents, especially because oil field workers are frequently in elevated places. The worst traumatic brain injuries result into severe physical and cognitive problems, like unbearable headaches, vomiting, and difficulty speaking and understanding speech. The worst spinal cord injuries, on the other hand, result into paralysis.


Oil field workers inherently deal with strong substances such as chemicals and oils. These substances may cause burns, through direct contact, explosion, or fire ignition. The bad thing about burns is that they don’t just damage the skin. Depending on their severity, they may also damage the nerves, muscles, and bones.


Bones can break if they receive sufficient force, and that is exactly what they get when workers slip because of oil and violently fall onto the ground, get hit by pipes and rigs, or fall from elevated places. The body parts that are most vulnerable to fractures are the hand and arm, foot and leg, hip and pelvis, and the shoulder and back.

Nursing Home Abuse

When you put your parents or grandparents in a nursing home, you want them to be taken care of. You want the best care from their nurses, doctors, and any caregiver they will have. However, this is not always what happens. Even though these facilities are governed by detailed laws and regulations designed to protect their residents, nursing home abuse and neglect still happens.

Noticing signs of abuse early is the key to protecting your loved ones and helping the elderly in our society. According to NusingHomeAbuseGuide.org, the signs of nursing home abuse include: broken bones or fractures, bruising, cuts, bed sores, frequent infections, dehydration, mood swings, reclusiveness, refusal of food, unexplained weight loss, and poor physical appearance. According to Charleston personal injury attorneys of Clawson & Staubes, LLC: Injury Group, the elderly are often reluctant to report abuse themselves because of fear of retaliation, lack of physical and/or cognitive ability to report, or because they don’t want to get the abuser in trouble. This means that it is often up to relatives or outside third parties to notice and report abuse.

The physical and emotional abuse that often occurs in nursing home facilities can have significant effects on the elderly victims. Abuse and neglect can lead to mental and emotional issues, and can have disastrous financial consequences for victims. Physical effects can be very serious considering the age and physical condition of the residents already. If you do suspect abuse, it is important to act quickly.

All About Sexual Abuse In The Nursing Home

Nursing home abuse can come in a variety of forms. Aside from physical, verbal, health, and life issues, another type of maltreatment in nursing homes is sexual abuse. The number of these incidents has become alarming that it has become a growing problem in nursing homes. Elderly patients can be subject to sexual abuse because of their frailty and unlikely to be taken seriously when filing a claim.

In most nursing homes, sexual abuse may involve patients that are already suffering from dementia or other mental illnesses. According to a study conducted by the National Institute of Justice (NIJ) revealed that the older the victim is, the less likely it will be for the sexual offender to be charged. Aside from that, the same study also revealed that elder sexual abuse victims are likely to be believed unless there are signs of physical trauma. The incidence of sexual abuse in nursing homes may be a result of being understaffed in most of the facilities.

The family of the sexually abused elderly can play a crucial role in making the perpetrators of the crime liable. To prevent elderly sexual abuse, it is important that the facility be filled with more staff to prevent sexual abuse. At the same time, they should be properly trained to handle such kind of incidents.

Elderly abuse in the nursing home can manifest the following symptoms:

  • Emergence of sexually transmitted diseases
  • Problem sitting or drinking
  • Injury to the pelvic area
  • Extreme station
  • Inappropriate or unusual behavior
  • Suicide attempts

Preventing sexual abuse in a nursing home can prove to be a challenge. Unless preventive measures are implemented, the number of victims of sexual abuse in the nursing home will continue to increase. Nursing home abuse, in general, should be subjected to a thorough investigation. The party responsible for the act of sexual abuse should be held accountable.

Workplace Accidents: Receiving Workers’ Compensation for a Work-Related Injury

It is in the very nature of accidents to be unpredictable, but this unpredictability becomes compounded when individuals take part in risky activities. For people working in some of the most dangerous industries, the threat that an accident may occur is part of their daily routine. Workers in construction, mining, and manufacturing often find themselves in situations leaving them vulnerable to serious injury. According to the Occupational Safety & Health Administration, some of the most common accidents that occur in these workplaces include slips, trips, and falls from certain heights, as well as toxic substance exposure and electrocution.

While accidents in less hazardous workplaces may not always lead to anything serious, most of the ones that occur in construction sites and similarly dangerous workplaces do cause very alarming consequences. These are known to lead to serious medical conditions like brain trauma, spinal cord damage, amputations, and third-degree burns. Many of these consequences can leave victims unable to return to work and earn a living. They’re left with no source of income as their medical bills continue to mount. The problem is even more complicated for workers that support their family. Even minor injuries can leave workers vulnerable and financially burden for some time, since conditions like carpal tunnel or bone fractures also require lengthy recovery times.

Whatever the case, workers suffering from injuries caused by workplace accidents are meant to receive proper financial assistance through workers’ compensation benefits. Individuals in these situations are mandated by both federal and individual state legislations to receive payments that can help with the financial concerns brought about their accident and injury.

Is There Ever a Way to make Truck Drivers not Drive While Feeling Sleepy?

After the August 2010 truck accident that killed Ed Slattery’s wife Susan Slattery, confined his son Matthew to a wheelchair due to crushed skull that resulted to traumatic brain injury, and broke Peter’s (his other son) pelvis and eye socket, it was only in June 2014 when truck accidents due to driver fatigue gained new attention. This resurfacing of driver fatigue as a major cause of truck accidents was due to the crashes that killed four members of a Texas community college women’s softball team and which put comedian Tracy Morgan into a coma and killed his co-comedian James McNair.

In the August 2010 accident, the Triple trailer driver confessed to having dozed off prior to ramming into the Slattery’s Ford Focus and five other vehicles, while the Wal-Mart Stores Inc. driver of the tractor-trailer that hit Morgan’s limousine has had no sleep for at least 24 hours prior to the accident. (In 1991, driving triple trailers on U.S. highways was banned; 14 states, however, which predates the ban, were exempted from said ban)

The Federal Motor Carrier Safety Administration (FMCSA), an agency in the U.S. Department of Transportation, is in charge of regulating the trucking industry in the United States; its primary mission is to reduce crashes involving large trucks and buses, and the injuries and deaths that these crashes cause.

The FMCSA and the National Highway Traffic Safety Administration (NHTSA) believe that a vast majority of truckers, especially veteran truck drivers, are responsible drives who drive well within reasonable limits. Some others drivers, however, including the trucking companies they work for, are often tempted to push themselves/these drivers to their limits, putting so many other motorists at risk.

By regulating the number of hours truck drivers may operate their vehicle, the FMCSA hopes to make sure that drivers do not and are not allowed to drive while fatigued. Under the new hours of service (HOS) rules, truck drivers are allowed to work up to 14 hours a day, including 11 hours of driving. If ever a driver renders 70 hours duty in a week, he/she must rest 34 hours, including two consecutive nights from 1a.m. to 5 a.m.

Drivers, though, are never paid overtime, besides being paid by the mile – definitely not worth the exhaustion they experience and often long periods away from their families. Due to this, and the need to earn more, many end up driving despite lack of sleep or having no sleep at all.

As a result, at least 4,000 fatal truck crashes and more than 100,000 leading to injuries are recorded by the U.S. DOT every year, with trucker fatigue being the most common cause of these crashes.

Many modern cars and some trucks are now equipped with safety devices, such as the Electronic Stability Control, Traction Control, Adaptive cruise control/collision mitigation, Lane-departure warning/wake-you-up safety, and Emergency brake assist/collision mitigation. Despite all these modern safety equipment, truck accident lawyers from the Schuler, Halvorson, Weisser, Zoeller & Overbeck, P.A., know that the size difference between a passenger vehicle and a commercial truck means that, in the event of an accident, motorists can suffer a range of losses that could affect them for the rest of their life.

In the 2010 accident which involved the Slattery family, Ed’s lawyer found out that, months before the accident occurred, the truck driver was warned by the trucking company he worked for due to traffic safety violations, which included making improper turn signals, following too closely, and weaving. These were aside from having been involved in minor accidents and having sleep apnea, a disorder in how one breathes during sleep.

Injured or killed victims in truck accidents deserve only the full amount of compensation the law allows them to receive. Compensation should cover hospital bills, rehabilitation period, loss of wages and, in case of death, loss of companionship, funeral expenses, and all the pains and suffering suffered by the victim/s and the family.

Never think twice about getting a highly-competent lawyer, who may be able to get all the evidences that will help you claim the compensation that you deserve. A less experienced one may only cause you the full justice that you wish for and deserve.

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